KVE301/KVE401 Universal Human Values and Professional Ethics

Chapter 8: Harmony in Family – Understanding Values in Human Relationships

Unit 1

Unit 2

Unit 3

Unit 4

Unit 5


Difference between various terms

1. Intension and Competence


    1. Intention is what one aspires for
      (our natural acceptance)
    2. It is about our natural acceptance
    3. What you want to be
    4. What you really want to be


    1. Competence is the ability to fulfill the aspiration
    2. It is about our ability
    3. What you are ∑DTE
    4. What you are

I make effort to accentuate the difference, to manipulate, exploit the other

2. Attention and Respect


    1. Attention is earned by accumulating only physical objects or doing lot of surplus activities like climbing mountains for the sake of fame, putting all kind of clothes, letting their hair or nails grow long earning a lot of money working very hard to be on the magazine cover, the list is simply endless.
    2. It makes us uncomfortable; it creates a feeling of opposition


    1. Respect is right evaluation.
    2. Respect for others is generated by the right evaluation and understanding which leads to fulfillment in relationships. This further creates a sense of respect among people.
    3. If we see our relationship with others, we shall anyway respect others. Other one doesn’t have to do something special to earn respect from us. The fact that we are human is enough for us to respect others.
    4. This makes us and others happy. It makes both of us comfortable; it puts both of us at ease. 

3. Differentiation and Respect


    1. Differentiation is lack of understanding of respect.
    2. This differentiation can take the form of:
      • Gender bias
      • Generation gap
      • Caste struggle
      • Power play and domination
      • Communal violence
      • Clash of race, religion, etc.
      • Class struggle
    3. This leads to the escalation in the problems of society which further lowers the respect shown to others in society.
    4. I evaluate on the basis of body, physical facilities, or belief (preconditioning). I compare, compete, differentiate…

      I am different from the other.
      We are competitors.
      I make effort to accentuate the difference, to manipulate, exploit the other

DigitalG1 Types of Differentiation


    1. Respect is the right evaluation.
    2. Respect for others is generated by the right evaluation and understanding which leads to fulfillment in relationships.
    3. This further creates a sense of respect among people.
    4. I evaluate on the basis of our purpose, program, and potential.
      • Our purpose (Natural Acceptance) is the same.
      • Our program is the same.
      • Our potential is the same.

        The other is similar to me.
        We are complementary to each other.

If the other has more understanding than me
– I am committed to understand from the other
If I have more understanding
– I live with responsibility with the other.
– I am committed to facilitate understanding in the other (once the other is assured in relationship, and not before that)

4. Self respect and Abhiman

Self Respect

    1. Self-respect is the virtue of oneness.
    2. The thought process in self-respect is related to the duty towards himself without selfishness.
    3. To undermine the self-respect of other is a sin. It is the highest form of self-respect to admit our errors and mistakes and make amends for them.


    1. Abhiman is the result of gaining supremacy in an area with ego.
    2. To make a mistake is only an error in judgment but to adhere to it when it is discovered shows infirmity of character.

5. Respect and Ego


    1. Respect is a positive feeling.
    2. It is progressive. It allows individual to see beyond self towards the betterment of the entire society.
    3. Respect doesn’t mean bringing down the higher, but be raising the lower up to the level of the higher.


    1. Ego is a negative feeling.
    2. It stops the progress because it narrows your vision and natural acceptance.
    3. In ego every person try to bring down the higher by any mean. This nature starts the process of self-destruction. One cannot learn new things, but keep on thinking the evil methods to bring down the progressive person.

6. Excellence and Competition


    1. The other is like me.
      • We are complementary.
    2. Feeling are based on right understanding (definite, unchanging)
    3. Unconditional relationship
    4. Nurtures others
    5. Helps the other to come to his level
    6. Is prosperous – Rightly utilizes, shares, nurtures
    7. Absolute (definite completion point)


    1. Not other – only me.
      • I am different/more than the other.
    2. Feelings are based on preconditioning (indefinite, keeps changing)
    3. Conditional relationship
    4. May nurture or exploit others
    5. Stops the other to come to his level – effort to accentuate the difference, to dominate, manipulate, exploit
    6. Is deprived – Hoards, accumulates, exploits
    7. Relative (no definite completion point)

7. Affection and Competition


    1. Affection means a feeling of togetherness.
    2. When there is affection, I help the other to grow


    1. Competition means the act of competing, rivalry for supremacy, a prize, etc.
    2. It is a rivalry between two or more persons or groups for an object desired in common, usually resulting in a victor and a loser.
    3. When I miss the feeling of affection, I try to beat the other, act as an opponent.

8. Response and Reaction


    1. You decide your feeling on your own right.
    2. It is based on the right understanding.
      You always have the right feeling. It is definite and unconditional.
      The behavior of the other is only an indicator of the state of the other.
      With that input, you decide your behavior to ensure mutual happiness.
    3. You decide your own behavior.
      • You are self-organized.
    4. Your conduct is definite.


    1. You decide your feeling based on the behavior of the other.
    2. It depends on whether you like or dislike the behavior of the other.
      • If the other behaves properly, you have the right feeling and may behave properly.
      • If the other misbehaves, you have a wrong feeling and you may also misbehave.
    3. Your “remote control” is with the others.
      • You are enslaved.
    4. Your conduct is indefinite.

9. Love and Infatuation


    1. Happiness = Right understanding & right feeling in the self
    2. Love = feeling in the self
    3. Based on relating to the other-self unconditionally
    4. Continuity is possible


    1. Happiness = sensation (through the body) & feeling from other
    2. Love = sensation
    3. Infatuation, Attraction, Liking, Lust, Vasna, based on getting sensation/feeling from the other
    4. Continuity is not possible

Summarized by – Dr. Niyati Garg

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